Real Housewives: Sofa Koff!

The long-awaited reunion (part 1) of the Real Housewives of New Jersey happened last night (happened is the way I choose to explain it) - and I hate to say this again, but I have to say this again: Danielle once again won the day. Not by a lot, because there really were no winners here, including me, who watched it and am feeling a little blue because I did watch it.

The loser of the evening was without a doubt Theresa. This however, cements Theresa as the loser for the season. Bankruptcy, a house which is certainly going to be foreclosed on, legal woes, DUIs, foreheads, $11 million of unpaid bills, vendors everywhere being put into financial distress because of the Giudice's greed, leopard clothes, period ragu, mindless F-bombing rants and the IRS - ladies and gentlemen of the casino never fear, for here is the Biggest Losing Streak in the World, spray-tanned for your orangish viewing displeasure.

As I mentioned, the set this time is an Atlantic City casino, and the room is dressed up with giant playing cards with N.J. in the corners - which were actually pretty cool. Andy Cohen looked suitably natty and non-threatening in one of his usual-type, form-fitted suits. Is he Tim Ginn? No. But he's not going to get anyone's attention during this episode, so it doesn't matter.

The Housewives did not look so good.

For the occasion, Theresa had donned a large strapless thing that I am guessing she converted from a 1970s hooked bath rug to a dress-type girding device that was inappropriately short and too tight. Jacqueline was wearing a sequined dress in red that called uncomfortable attention to her shoulder-killing breast mounds, purchased on an earlier show (the breasts, not the dress, which I believe comes from the Snooki collection. In fact, perhaps both the dress and the breasts come from the Snooki collection). She had a black bra on. She was spray-tanned to within an each of her life and her hair looked like Cher's circa 1973, which is not a bad thing on Cher.

Caroline looked appropriate in purple. She also has lost a lot of weight. Good for her. Portion control.

Danielle - oh, dear. Danielle was wearing a copper-colored tube top as a skirt and one of Danny Provolone's wife-beater T-shirts with ankle boots and really dark hair extensions. I am supposing that the outfit was supposed to make her look edgy, per her new imaginary rock-star status, but unfortunately, it just made her appear to have a huge roll of fat around her middle. It was a most unfortunate ensemble.

Supposedly, the woman haven't seen each other in a year, which seems unlikely, since they all live two houses away from each other. Andy says something about how they are finally in the same room with each other, and Theresa says, finally, and Jacqueline says, without armed guards.

So that's how it's gonna be, Jackie? Danielle's eyes narrow.

The governor of "Jersey" as Andy calls him said sometime in the not-too-distant past that he doesn't like Jersey Shore, which he believes is not a good representation of the state. No one admits to having watched it except Theresa, who says she doesn't like it because the girl (Snooki, probably, met a guy and had sex with him right away). Theresa does it old school (on credit up to $11 million, I guess that means) and doesn't think you should have sex right away. Then she adds, all fake innocence and eyebrows like Nixon, "I don't think you should have sex right away the first week you meet 'em. Like certain people in this room." And then, like the cowardly asscheese that she is, she says, "But we're not gonna get into this right now. Go on, ask your questions."

And right away I know that Theresa, Jacqueline and Caroline have decided on a party line. These will be the things that they bring up. Some of them may be true. Some may not be true. It doesn't matter, because they are going to say them loud, and who will know the difference?

The problem is that some of the things they say in this show are frankly too newly minted to be credible. If Danielle and Steve had really had sex in front of Theresa's kids, for instance, we would have heard it by now. I believe that Theresa has decided that if she can make Danielle look as bad as possible, she, Theresa, will look better by comparison.

This is because Theresa is an idiot and she assumes that everyone else is even stupider than she is. Really, every time Theresa opens her mouth, she is calling every last person in the world a moron, because she actually thinks that we will believe whatever line of salmonella-smacked bullshit she delivers. It's really incredibly insulting.

"Oh, let's go back to that one," Theresa says, adding that Danielle allegedly slept with Steve a week after she met him, in full view of Theresa's children (who get to hear their mother talking about how often she schtups their Daddy one room from theirs in the Pee-Wee's Playhouse Palatial Steak & Ale). Danielle says this wasn't true, and the Other Ones screech yes! Yes, it is! Gia heard you! Milania heard you! Tilapia heard you! and this all seems very flimsy and howly but yet also a Red Flag, because if Theresa's friend Steve had been involved in this, why didn't they bring it up to Steve? It just doesn't pass the BS test.

I do seem to be swearing much today. I apologize. I think I caught it from the show, but I am definitely going to get some antivirals so it goes away.

Jacqueline undermines the story still more by saying that Theresa's kids heard it, and then she adds, you straddled him right in front of the kids.Okay - they either heard or or they saw it. Which is it? Because if it had really been the more ominous, they saw you, they would have led with that one.

Andy knows it's BS, too. He makes them move to his own topic. There is some stuff about how Danielle says "woman" instead of  "women." They bring up "ethnicity," rerevnovated," "sangwich." They are all in agreement about how nice it is to have their own languages. For a minute, it all seems happy. We are all so unique and delightful!

On to the kids. Danielle's kids are great and their careers are great. Jacqueline and Theresa squeezed out some kids. There is some nonsense about fertiility bracelets and contractions. Babies and leopard pajamas and talk of goddaughters. During this scene, all the Other Ones are smiling proudly and even Danielle smiles sentimentally. Babies and stuff. Go back and check for that smile; as batshit crazy as Danielle is, she is human, and that's more than I can say for Gorilla Giudice.

The question from the (not-too-bright) caller is: why didn't Danielle call Jacqueline after her baby was born? Oooh! oooh! I can answer this one myself! Because Jacqueline told her not to! She said to Danielle, don't you ever talk about or come near my baby. Danielle's mistake was to think that by saying this, Jacqueline meant, don't you ever talk about or come near my baby. How can they have it every way? We don't want you near us, dammit, but don't you forget to send a freakin' baby gift, bee-yoch!

Jacqueline is going to be pissy over this, because the baby is only like two years old by now, so Danielle says congratulations, he's beautiful to which Jacqueline says, super-pissily, I know he is and this is going to be a fight. You can tell that Jacqueline is revving up the Baby Huey Theresa, and there's going to be bloodshed.

Dina is not there, and everyone is mad - but the Other Ones get to see her all the time. It was Danielle's fault, they all say, and Danielle doesn't care. But Andy brings up the conversation last season where Caroline, weeping hysterically, accuses Danielle of trying to do some mysterious thing to Dina.

I have to say that Dina is gone and I don't miss her. Perhaps I am in the minority. It's not that I have anything against Dina - it's just that I really don't care. Any of these women could be gone next week and I wouldn't care. They would be a blip on the edge of my radar and sometimes manybe when I saw someone in a too tight dress, with tacky furniture and a spray tan and too much Botox, my brain would fart "RHONJ." And then it would go away, and I would think, I need to buy orange juice and a printer cartridge.

So, anyway, apparently Danielle is accused of trying to get Dina's daughter taken away. Danielle says she would never do that; she doesn't believe that Dina is an unfit mother. Theresa hears what she wants to hear, which is unfit mother and she's all, "Let's not talk about unfit mothers," which seems to me to be the wrong reaction, considering that Danielle didn't actually call Dina an unfit mother. Then there's some talk of silencing people (by which I think Jacqueline means "gag order," and Danielle says that maybe her attorneys did in fact put a gag order on Dina.

And the judges wouldn't put a gag order on Dina if Danielle had said something bad. Caroline says we can't talk about her sister (because Caroline thinks everyone should just blindly obey her), and Danielle says that she is allowed to clarify the story now that it;s been brought up (which is true, legally). Danielle says she never tried to have Dina's kids taken away.

And this may be true. The story I read was about child support, not custody.

Caroline does her bully thing, do not speak about my sister. Caroline confusingly welcomes Danielle to her world, and Danielle says she doesn't want to be in her world, and Caroline says that's the best gift anyone could ever give her. (Headed to the ER for my whiplash injury; Caroline will be hearing from my personal injury lawyer).

Jacqueline waves her arms menacingly and talks about proof and crap and she looks like a stuffed crust pizza that's been glittered in red by Martha Stewart, who also happens to be from New Jersey. Why isn't Martha Stewart on this show? I could learn handy tips for the holidays at the same time that I am learning about whatever it is I am learning about on this show. Martha would judge the crispiness of the biscotti and it would all be over with. Nobody gets to feel good about themselves if Martha is on the show.

Back at the set, Shut your mouth you piece of garbage shut up shut up shut up says Jaqueline, and I see what Ashley is in 20 years, a glittery sausage yelling her own random brain-tweets and then telling everyone to shuddup shuddup shuddup.

Theresa says that Danielle didn't even acknowledge their babies, which is ridiculous, because they told her not to, and Danielle says something about how Theresa didn't even acknowledge her own nephew. She must mean that Theresa didn't mention it in a blog or something. Who cares? Why didn't Theresa just say whaddevah?

Because that's not what this is about. What this is about is that somebody in the Giudice family (maybe Joe's sister who married a - gasp!- black man, or maybe Joe's mistress, who had sex with Joe - hurl!) had a baby, and the Giudices weren't planning to acknowledge this.

Yet another Giudice secret - with the important point being that in this case, Danielle had done her homework.

Gold star, Miss Staub!

Theresa acts as if Danielle has something horrible and true, which makes me wonder if there's some truth in it, and starts screaming "Don't you break up my family!" And then hitches her horrible dress over to Danielle and she's pointing and screaming F-you F-you F-you Bitch Bitch Bitch F-you F-you F-you! You F-in bitch! You mother-f-ing bitch! You f-in bitch!"

Andy tries to pull Theresa, who is still yelling her happy words, away from Danielle, and Theresa shoves him into a chair. Danielle gets up and leaves the set, which makes perfect sense to me. A big be-flowered gorilla shouting in my face? I'd be SO out of there.

Theresa is throwing furniture and grunting and telling profanities and Jacqueline is doing some snap-up-with-a-z-formation thing and it's really quite terrible. Caroline goes to try to calm Theresa down, saying she knows Danielle is a bitch and Theresa just keeps yelling insensibly, like a gorilla on The Jerry Springer Show.

Which is what this show is. The '90s had Jerry, and now we have Andy.

Theresa is yelling that Danielle better get her ass back to the set so that she can - what? Continue to scream? Hit her? Kill her? Daniell says that she won't go back to the set until Theresa sits down, and if she gets up again, she's done. Danielle is right - the Other Ones brought up something and talked about it, and then when Danielle tried to defend herself, they screamed about law and right and bitches.

They can't have it both ways.

Had they just let Danielle defend herself, there would have been doubt. That would have worked to their advantage in the long run. But because they all - Theresa, Caroline, and Jacqueline - decided to sceam and rant, they came off looking like bullies.

Danielle is a little upset. I would be a little upset. I actually am a little upset.

Danielle tells Andy that she won't go back unless someone is put in charge of Theresa. Andy says that he won't let her get up and that he pulled Theresa off of Danielle. I have to say that Andy looked like a complete fool; he wasn't trying very hard to get Theresa off of Danielle, and he let her stand up in the first place. I am wondering if this is why Danielle was fired - was she going to sue?

She's not worth it she's not worth it she's not worth it. Theresa is promising not to hit Danielle.

Caroline says that Lori, who may or may not be Danielle's girlfriend, tried to come after Danielle. Big deal. They had to hold Lori back. Big deal. Theresa's fault, all of it. It really made me mad that Caroline hinted after that raging gorilla f-bomb tantrum that it was Theresa who needed to be protected.

Theresa is now mumbling that Danielle was tawkking about her family. I have to say that if Theresa wants to kill everyone who is talking bad about her family, Theresa better just start making appointments for duels. She may be finished by 2189. Because everyone is talking about Theresa's family. Everyone. I bet the Queen of England says every night right before she goes to bed, "Oh, Philip, those children's hair bows are quite dreadful." I bet the Pope says, "Why, oh why are they portraying themselves as Catholic?" I bet the Dali Lama goes, "I truly hate the profusion of leopard print crap."

Caroline makes some crap excuse for Theresa about how Theresa never does this kind of profanity-laden killfest, otherwise Caroline - who is so discerning - wouldn't be her friend. Because we really believe this, right? Thanks, Caroline, for trying to make us all feel stupid. Of course, Theresa does this. Whenever she doesn't get her own way, she does this. What Caroline wants us to think is that because Caroline is so controlled and ladylike herself, we should believe her when she says that Theresa would never do this because Caroline wouldn't have a friend who does this.

Except we already know that Caroline is not so ladylike, because we saw her have her own tantrum just last week. So, there it is.

Suddenly, Jacqueline accuses Danielle of wanting to take credit for introducing her to her fertility doctor. Danielle says that she took Jaacqueline to her appointments, Jacqueline says she didn't. Who cares? Is this really something to argue about? Jacqueline says, what? Do I owe you my child? And Danielle says, you don't owe me anything, and Jacqueline is still ranting and literally baring her teeth and looking ridiculous.

Do you think you got me pregnant? Jacqueline asks, ridiculously. Caroline realizes Her Side looks stupid, and she cuts Jacqueline off.

We have to watch some stuff about how Albie probably isn't going to get to be a lawyer, and Danielle sticks up for her. Caroline ignores this show of goodwill and decency - which, even if it was manufactured, was a sign of goodwill and decency. Theresa is ready to be insulted when she brings up the fact that Gia got to be a model, and she is mad because Danielle said during the season that Gia wasn't a supermodel. Danielle explains that Gia is eight years old, and by definition is not a supermodel. Danielle says in the reunion that she hopes Gia gets all of her dreams. She adds that she thinks Gia is beautiful and did a great job on the runway at Fashion Week.

Then Theresa wants to know about the lace and crinoline comment in which Danielle said that when her children were small, they wore lace and crinoline. Her dogs wore leopard.

Theresa dresses her children in horrible leopard. Danielle won't cop to insulting the way the kis are dressed. This is a mistake. She should say, yes, I am not fond of the leopard look, but if anyone could pull it off, your girls can.

Because Danielle has no answers, Caroline bitchily "interprets" Danielle's comment to mean that Theresa's kids look like dogs. Caroline knows that this is not what Danielle meant, because Caroline herself laughed like a hyena from The Lion King when Theresa and her girls made their grand entrance in their shiny satin and flannel leopard-print Bo-Peep/pantalette/hair bow ensembles.

I won't say that the kids are dogs. I don't think they are pretty or cute, though. Do you think that Theresa's forehead is lower because her mother made her wear bows, too? Because those are really heavy-looking bows.

There is some talk about a heinous Bravo poll about who viewers would want to be their mother. They choose Caroline, because at least she would totally pull out the stops for you if you wanted to be in law school. Theresa is horribly jealous and uses the excuse that of course viewers would want Caroline, because her kids are old.

Danielle gets the least votes. Danielle doesn't feel that she has to defend her parenting. Jacqueline says that Danielle's daughters go to the school nurse and cry every day. This is another mean thing to bring up. How much Danielle overshares with her kids. Danielle says that sometimes she regrets sharing too much with the girls, but added that another housewife with a teenager (everyone knows this is Jacqueline, including Jacqueline, whose oversharing resulted in her daughter being a hideous assaulting criminal as opposed to what she was before, which was a big, doughy, self-entitled little bitch).

Is there nobody else who thinks that outing little girls for their pain at their mother's reality show antics (which are without question revolting) is playing unfair? Taking your finger and digging into the painful sore that must be their lives? Revealing yet another aspect of their already far-too-public lives?
Period ragu, period wine. Women, don't get near the food at that time of the month or it will curdle. Theresa shills her cookbook, which has nothing that you couldn't get from any Italian food Web site - which is probably where she got the recipes.

Ring for the anniversary? Oh, it's just a yellow sapphire. Theresa said a diamond ring would be a half-million dollars. Of course, before she knew that her financial circus would be made public, she wanted everyone to think it was a real diamond. She's the kind of person who would buy fake Gucci shoes for her kid.

She only raises divas. Which may make life difficult when they are working regular jobs or delivering pizzas.

It's all just part of the $11 million debacle. The shopping trips show us what we know about Theresa - she's a spendy thief who wants the stuff but doesn't pay the bills.

The Other Ones act as if this is cute. Danielle's face is inscrutable.

Birthday parties, housewarming parties, she wants what she wants when she wants it, baptisms, etc.

The whole apartment above the pizzeria is too much for Theresa. For the first time, there is the look of regret on her face.

Of course, it's not regret at having bilked innocent people out of money. It's regret because the gravy train is over and no one is handing out credit to her anymore.

Theresa says her house is not in foreclosure, but she has her husband and her four kids, so she doesn't care if it happens (it will, they will live over the pizzeria and she will try to weave a fable about how their Italian trip brought them back to their roots and who needs all that stuff?). When pursued by Andy and his pesky questions, Theresa tries to skim over the bills, all the stuff that was written in the New York Post, it's all incorrect, some of it is, anyway, Joe didn't tell her, he was trying to protect her. Her stuff may be auctioned, but she's not paying attention. She's not in denial.

Jacqueline is almost in tears. Theresa insults the lying New York Post and said that it's not true - $100,000 at Neiman Marcus, Bloomingdales and Nordtrom? No way. Because you forgot Posche. A full $9K of that amount is from Posche!

Maybe. I am just making that up, because it sounds right.

Danielle is so happy.

Theresa won't clarify exactly what her financial situation is, and Jacqueline jumps to her defense and said that her husband just told her not to spend so much money. You know when your husband says not to spend so much money? Jacqueline says, as if $11 million in debt is just because someone thought that the white sandals would also be cute for summer, so she was getting the brown ones and the white ones, even though she only wears sandals for three months, but she really wants them, so damn the meat budget, but she's getting the white sandals, too.

Theresa was working, she was making her own money. She could spend what she wanted. She has adjusted her own lifestyle. The kids - they don't demand stuff. The whole thing has made them closer.

To stand up for her again. Jaccqueline said that the second Theresa found out (that there's not a magical fairy paying the bills) that they were $11 million in debt and this might cramp their lifestyle, she went to work immediately - appearances every night.

And Theresa becomes even, unbelievably, more detestable than before.

Theresa doesn't like negative, and she stays only in the positive (except where Danielle is concerned). If (when) they lose their house, they'll just build it back.

Joe's accident was when he yawned, not when he drank, and no way was it because he was drinking about money problems (I read that he was partying with another Bravo franchise right before the accident). Officer. I was just drinking because I was so "shooken" up about driving into a forest and hitting all those trees. Theresa starts to deny, but then has to admit when the other housewives say it, that the citation is still considered a DUI. But they got the ticket in the mail a week later (apparently, when people get arrested in New Jersey, the police don't act on the spot - they take a few days to think about it). Danielle says the obvious - why go have a few drinks after a car accident? Caroline corrects Theresa when she says he yawned. He fell asleep for a minute. This is the official excuse. Yes, that's actually what Theresa thinks now, too.

Danielle doesn't approve of DUIs. Of course, I still suspect that Danielle was a bit under the influence after the nail salon in the first episode. If I had to live with Theresa, the liquor would flow like non-sauce making time.

Is Danielle a victim or a villain? She wants to be both. The stripping moment made me ill. Butt crack and booty shorts. Engage and suggest. Horrible confession, and she's such a devout Catholic. (As a Catholic, I want to point out that no way can these people speak for my group.)

Danny says there is a kindred spirit thing going on. I know that Danny kicks Danielle to the curb at the end of the season. He wants to be on the show.

Now, Jacqueline brings up that Danny may have been married at one time. Ooh. This is her dirt? Big deal. Jacqueline's daughter was convicted on assault charges. Didja hear that?

When you hear Jacqueline speak, you know why her daughter was so obsessed with Danielle.

So Danny might have been married. So what? Is he a prize? No.

I have to say that Danny seemed to be in this more for the chance to be on TV than for the chance to have sexual relations with Danielle.

Jacqueline and Theresa want to make the Danny thing a big deal. Who cares? He's just a lonesome piece of provolone. No one cares. Danielle didn't hang out with him, she says - and so what if she did? This is not news. The idea was always communicated that maybe Danny thought Danielle was kind of hot.

Danielle says that she really can't afford to have her house renovated but that people needed to pay attention to the show - she didn't pay for the Sweet 16. It was all for charity. I don't know if this means that people paid to get in - I have no clue what this means. Do I care? No.

Andy tries to get Danielle to talk about whether or not she and Lori are in a relationship, and Danielle does not admit whether or not she is "swimming in the lady pond." Caroline sticks up for the not outing of people who may or may not be gay, but she says that editing is not to blame for how people are portrayed on the show.

Okay, Caroline, I stick by my earlier thoughts about you.

Caroline thinks it's fine for someone to strip or be a prostitute, but she has a husband who loves her, nanny nanny boo-boo.

Jacqueline has watched the sex tape. She has analyzed it in ways that Jacqueline is not able to analyze things, because Jacqueline doesn't have a brain; she has a skull full of Urkel-Os cereal. Then Theresa chimes in (okay, apparently Theresa has seen it, too) and she wants to do a timeline of the sex tape because it will prove whether this was an old mistake or a new one. Long hair or short? Danielle says it was long hair, because she had clip-in extensions.

Who cares? I am sure that Danielle is making money from the sex tape, and whatever. Grab those 15 minutes, sistah. I don't care. I was pretty horrified, and then I found out about Theresa and her $11 million and Ashley and her assault, and now I don't care. Where my outrage might have once been is a big callus of RHONJ incidents.

Theresa starts screaming bitch and more bad words.

Caroline is mad and yelling about the OK Corral because Caroline has been called on the "dead light in their eyes" comments, and Danielle is denying that her kids really know about the sex tape.

Of course, Danielle's kids know about the sex tape. They hear the whispers, poor littles. Danielle can lie to herself about that - mommy should have been more discreet, big mistake - and whatever. Does it help to have three bitches talking about it in a fake-compassionate way?

Caroline does some nonsense about how she wants Danielle's autograph because Danielle is so perfect. Sarcasm, but not funny sarcasm.

Next, we hear about the baby-with-cancer fundraiser, an event made unspeakable by Danielle's paranoia and the license that Danielle's paranoia gave her posse. I've already talked about that. It was ghastly, and there is no excuse. Caroline wants to focus on Danielle being mean to Christopher, which seems to me to be the least of the issues. Danger to her son in the form of Danny? Really. What is Danny going to do? Call him a punk. Big deal. Over.

If Caroline had talked about something without screaming fool!  and whatever other names she decided to call, she might have won. But she lowered herself, and now they all look bad.

But Danielle - oh, geez. She looks better than them.

Real Housewives of New Jersey: The Birth of Vesuvius

Hot on the heels of rumors that Danielle Stab has been fired from the Real Housewives of New Jersey (neither Bravo nor Danielle will actually cop to this, although Danielle did some sidestepping - "I'm not even thinking about Season 3 in light of all the incredible opportunities coming my way" - that leads me to believe the rumor mill may have accidentally stepped into the truth on this one), comes Part II of The Real Housewives of New Jersey visit the Mamaland.

Opening scene is on the cruise ship, which has finally landed at Naples. The Giudices are trying to get off the boat. Rather than leaving all of their luggage in the room for the porters, they take everything with them. Because they have more bags than have ever been manufactured in the country of China, this makes chaos ensue. Garbage cans and kids get knocked all over the place. The garbage cans, being more pleasant in general, do not set up caterwauling whines when they get knocked over. At some point, Joe even suggests throwing one of the kids overboard.

I don't think he was kidding.

Funniest scene ever when Joe decides to walk a stroller down the steps instead of just manning up and carrying it. It was an umbrella stroller, for Pete's sake! It weighs exactly nothing! Even loaded down with all the kid crap the Giudices carry (an entire suitcase for hairbows), it still weighed less than the burden of their incredible debt.

Teresa says that Joe hates to be away from his business for a whole week. I think that Joe is hearing from America what the repercussions of the Giudices bad acts are, and he's anxious that he doesn't know the full extent and crabby about the fact that it hangs there over his head.

So Joe goes hunched and bow-legged down the stairs with his stroller bouncing this way and that, in his big green sweater and his too-tight boy-man jeans with the pockets ending around mid-thigh. And it makes me laugh.

Jacqueline makes fun of Teresa's inability to allow her children to go outside without a bow on their heads. This is true. It is the reason her children look vulgar. By looking vulgar, I mean they look like trash. The bows are not the reason they have vulgar behavior. The parents are the reason they have vulgar behavior, even as kids go.

They get into the bus and Teresa's kids are whining. One of them is sitting, in her puffy, pink fur jacket, on Albert's lap. This ticks off Caroline, who is really up-to-here with kids. This was going to be her alone time, and, to put it frankly, they aren't her kids.

So the girls cry and whine, and Teresa says later that Caroline seems to be in a crappy mood, but she should feel better now that she's not on a cruise ship. She said that she doesn't feel at all responsible for Caroline's mood - it's it's her problem and she needs to suck it up.

Teresa is just mad that Caroline appears to be criticizing her children. She likes it when people say how cute they are - no doubt because they don't know what else to say when confronted by all that leopard print and poly-satin. She definitely doesn't like it when people purse their lips and glare at her little Giudiettes.

Cut to the new hotel in Naples and one of the little Giudettes is amazed over the bidet. She says, "oh, a little sink!" and Teresa, ever the informing mother, says it's an au bideh. She pretends she can't speak English, as if she's suddenly some Persian princess who is trying to communicate in a Whole New Language. For confirmation of her suspicions that this thing is an au bideh, she turns to her husband, her promptly dismisses it as something that they don't even use in America anymore. However, he tries to educate his daughters by explaining that au bidehs are "like douches."

In Albert and Caroline's room, sadness reigns. They don't speak Italian because their parents didn't teach them, trying to assimilate as they were. They can't go to Pompeii because there are too many people, and quite frankly, though they didn't say it, they are aware that Pompeii, not having a Chanel store, is not of interest to Teresa.

Caroline and Albert are tired and they won't say anything bad about the little girls, but they do believe that Teresa and Joe need to parent with "more iron hand." Caroline realizes that perhaps she looked a but bitchy on the bus, so she points out that they are finished raising kids, but adds that they will be great grandparents.

You can just tell that they are done babysitting.

Now, we go to Danielle, who had an awesome day and needs the kids to listen to her without looking at their cell phones. She needs their full attention because she's sensitive about her "birth mom" search. She never wanted the kids to know about the fact that she was looking for her birth mother, but rather than making the whole issue seem unimportant (seeing as how she didn't want them to know), she decides to make it really important.

Kim G has told people that Danielle was looking for her birth mother, and there are allegations that Teresa found out and gossiped about it, and Danielle tells us all, via talking head, that Kim G has "stabbed her in the proverbial back." I need to know: is this different than stabbing her in her actual back?

Danielle says that Teresa should not have talked about something so sensitive, and her daughter says that everyone deserves respect, even if you don't like them.

Actually, this is not true. Everybody deserves to be treated respectfully, but that it different from actually having to give everyone respect. Respect is an earned honor, and it is different to have respect for people than it is to treat them respectfully.

This is not a concept that Danielle could grasp, becuase it is the appearance of respect she wants. She doesn't have the discernment to understand the nuances between mere good manners and actual admiration.

Anyway, Danielle decides that she was a baby left without a mother and she turned out to be a great mother; therefore, the girls are lucky to have her as a mother. She thinks that the fact that everyone around town knows about her birth mom search is an omen that means she is supposed to share this quest with her daughters. And then, despite the fact that her mother was the one who left her as a baby without a mother, she says that she wants to find the woman who risked everything to have her at the age of 15.

The daughter says that if Danielle doesn't end up finding her birth mom, that's okay, because as least she didn't sit on her ass and do nothing about it. Danielle decides to be shocked and tell her daughter not to use that kind of language, which is a little disingenuous because Danielle likes to wave her middle finger and drop nasty language all the time. The kid backtracks and says "butt" in the way that kids do when they thought they were being cool and grown-up and realize that they have been called out for behaving badly.

Danielle was right to correct her daughter, but really - lead by example, babe!

The older girl felt really smacked and could barely look at her mother after that.

Back in Italy, Caroline and Chris get to look around the storefronts of Naples, which is where their parents are from. Their parents are with them, and they are teary-eyed and emotional; after their big moment, Caroline says, "Let's get the f*** out of here."

They eat in a pizza place that supposedly has the best pizza in the world. Everyone eats a lot, and Teresa lectures about how they did this and that, but the next part of the adventure will be the best because it's about family, by which she means her family.

Joe, who has been surly for the entire trip, gets a little sentimental. Teresa tells them how difficult it will be because of the hill they will have to climb to get to her family home, and is somewhat surprised and a little ticked off that Jacqueline agrees that it will be difficult to get there because of the climb that will be even harder because of strollers and old people (meaning parents). Teresa puts an end to this conversation by saying that there are old people and babies in Italy, too. Which is what she should have said in the first place. Forewarned is forearmed or whatever - but to create a sense of dread is just not hospitable.

Back in New Jersey, Danielle's ex-con hangeraround Danny is at the house, looking as if he has just crawled in from a road trip with Rick Springfield. Danielle is eating snacks, and Danny chastises her. Danielle is doing some kind of act about how she is super-thin naturally and eats all the time. But Danny was taking her to eat.

Where is he taking her? Why, to the supermarket in Franklin Lakes.

Danielle says she won't go there because that's where Mean Caroline, Back-stabbing Kim G, Phone Neglecting Kim D, Mean Jacqueline and Mean Teresa live. Danny says, "they're not there," and Danielle gets excited, thinking that perhaps they have been killed or fallen into a giant crack in the Earth's crust. No, Danny says. They're in Italy.

Now, one would wonder how Danny knows this. Danielle, however, is not interested in how Danny knows this, because she assumes he's some kind of Italian muscle who knows everything. No, Danielle is more interested in why they would be in Italy when she herself was not asked to go. Is this a Bravo trip? Is this Caroline and Jacqueline's share of the Bravo goodies, since they didn't have Sweet 16/Housewarming/Christening parties? Will there be cameras there?

She pretends very hard not to care about the fact that the other Housewives are maybe being granted audiences with the Pope (trumping her vile priest meeting) and having their effigies carved into quivering hunks of ricotta cheese.

Meanwhile, Danny has that weird look of strange success in his eyes that Kim G had before Kim G decimated Danielle at their local Applebee's. You know that he has turned on Danielle, or would at least consider turning on Danielle, if a better opportunity arose.

Danielle is driving (is Danny not allowed to drive?) and gleefully crying "panini" at intervals. It seems odd to be so gleeful about a pressed sandwich that one can get in any number of mediocre sandwich shops that are way better than supermarkets, anyway. I have to wonder if Danny or Danielle bounced a check at the Franklin Lakes supermarket or had them cater the porn video shoot and offered to help them realize their ROI by showing that this supermarket has panini that people will drive literal minutes for.

Market Basket is so great that she has fond memories of it from way before she ever met Jacqueline. Trying to prove how deprived she has been by her feud with the Other Team, she points out that she and her girls used to get ice cream there. Ice cream! The All-American Treat! Plus, the world's best paninis, which she should totally put on a T-shirt - pressed meat all around, folks.

Danielle has new lip plumping. Her lips look like twin hot dogs in her talking head moment.

She is afraid, afraid, and she doesn't care what they're doing in Italy. Though she hopes that Italy is not another Titanic. By this, of course she means that she's very jealous that they are on a cruise ship right now and that she is not, and the only thing that would make this OK is if the boat sank and everyone on it was killed.

Then Danny drops a bomb: he has met one of Ashley's friends. Danielle leaps to say that Ashley has no friends, she assaults people,  and pulled Danielle's very own hair at a country club. She has terroristic tendencies. Danny says that this little girl who is a friend of Ashley's asked Danny what she could do for Danny and Danielle (us, as he says), and so he is going to use her as an avenue to keep tabs on Ashley.

Translation: he is going to get as far with this child as he can, having given up most of his own youth in prison. This is his chance to be young again, and by golly, he's not givin' it up. This will be prom night, long nights drinking beer out of bottles on the step of the 7-11, movies with groping, etc.

Danielle throws in that she used to drive Ashley to school in the hopes that Ashley would not get thrown out of yet another school.

I have to say that I despise Ashley, but Danielle has lost Ashley-despise points by continuing to make these digs. Ashley is revolting on her own.

But she hopes that Ashley is in Italy - because if Ashley would attack her in a country club, she would certainly do it in a supermarket. We are supposed to think that Ashley will leap out of the banks of shopping carts brandishing eggs and spray cheese. It doesn't happen.

Danny just humors her, and suddenly, the thought creeps into my head: was it Danny who told this friend of Ashley's about Danielle's birth mom quest, and the friend told Ashley, who told Jacqueline, who told Teresa? Is Danny the Manzo's source for All Things Danielle?

But then the idea of a panini becomes overwhelming, and she keeps crying it out over and over again, like the Delta in 1984 who keeps yelling, "Roof! Roof!"

"Panini! Panini!"

Back in Italy, the Giudices are transferring their luggage again. In the bus, Joe is demented over the cost of everything. He hoped that when he went to Italy, he would leave his world-heavy financial woes behind. Instead, he is finding that despite the cameras, everything in Italy costs money. Perhaps he thought that the rustic Italians would believe they were all Big American Stars and fall over themselves serving them the Very Best for Freeeeee. But no, the Italians served them and then handed them bills, and Joe is getting madder and madder. He curses and throws out amounts, and scorns the breakfast, which was just coffee and ham sandwiches, and loathes the brandy and the whiskey on their bills at dinner, and he didn't touch the damned minibar and he derides that cost of the hotel. Not being used to actually paying for anything, he is demented with fury.

I wondered at this point if perhaps Teresa had told him that this trip would be paid for by Bravo and that he wouldn't have to worry about anything.

Teresa tells him to shut up. It sort of looks as if she's telling him to stop sucking everyone else's joy and not to curse in front of her children (it doesn't seem that she's giving Jacqueline's sons any thought, and nor do you see anything much at all of them). But really, I thought she was just telling him to stop embarrassing her by talking about money, in that way that people do when they want people to think they have lots of money and shouldn't be worried at all about it.

Finally, as they get close to Joe's hometown, he realizes that he has been on a rant, but in that way that truly disturbed and anxious people get - as if it happened to him rather than being caused by him. So he tells everyone that they're gonna "eat and they're gonna be civilized - no more bullshitting around."

Caroline thinks this is hysterical, and laughs her head off.

Joe then becomes happy in that way that people are when they are showing something off that nobody else knows anything about. He tells everyone all about the scenery.
Jacqueline tells the old people to remain behind, and they do. The Giudettes are dressed so horribly I can't quite voice it: fake Burberry plaid plush and rubber boots and black plush with appliques, and it's simply dreadful. Heinous hairbows the size of peonies that look like bad carnations plopped on the end of each eyebrow. Giant man-sized Converse sneakers.

Teresa points out her Italian house, which she hopes to be able to renovate and refurbish when she has the money. I certainly hope that before she is allowed to do this, she has to repay her debt.

Everybody is walking and then crawling up the steps leading to the top of the hill, and Joe starts tour-guiding and pointing out houses and the former use of donkeys to get stuff up the hill. He doesn't know why they got rid of then.

They get up  to the top of the hill and everybody's kissing and hugging and speaking Italian and Caroline has nobody to speak to except for Teresa's Giudettes, who are hanging around bored and annoyed. Jacqueline makes an ass of herself by grabbing one of the relatives and hanging on them because she is so tired from walking, and then she sits right there in the public street like a bag lady.

In New Jersey, night has fallen, which makes it the perfect time for Danielle to go meet a private investigator to whom Danny has introduced her for the pursuit of her birth mom quest. She only has these two facts to help her look for her birth mom: date of birth, place of birth and her ethniticity. She describes her ethniticy as Catholic and Italian, though of course she has no clue. She would like to be Catholic and Italian, and therefore, poof! She says she is. She could be Native American or Lizard or Icelandic. She has no clue.

The private investigator tells her that he doesn't know that it will be easy or fast to find this now-62-year-old woman. Danielle says that her life is just her two kids, and she would like to have another adult in her life. She just wants to be part of a family.

This makes me think that Danielle is realizing that it might be time to check in with Birth Mom in case there's a chance if wiggling in on the inheritance.

Danielle then adds that if her mother is homeless or addicted to drugs or alcohol, she doesn't want that in her life. The guy says any choice to see the birth mother is up to the birth mother. Danielle says is not finding her to make the mother better; she's finding her to make Danielle better.
If the woman doesn't want Danielle, the investigator has to tell her, not the mother, because Danielle can't take that kind of rejection.

Cut back to Italy, and Teresa is throwing out minor Italian words like somebody whose family spoke it at home. She says in her talking head moment that the reason she sometimes doesn't speak English so good is that she didn't speak English until kindergarten.

Caroline is isolated and bored, and Albert is keeping her company. Since her parents and grandparents wanted to seem as American as possible, they stopped speaking Italian.

Jacqueline can only thunk that she wishes Danielle would move to another country or another planet.

There is tons of food, and the little Giudettes eat like monkeys right over the serving platters, foods dangling out of their crumb-laden mouths and landing back on other foods. Then the rest of the crowd go out and wave across town at some uncle of Teresa, and Caroline and Jacqueline eat pasta out of some stranger's beat-up cooking pot.

Jacqueline adds that before she entered the Manzo-Laurita family, she didn't eat like this. I got the impression that she never intends to stop and she intends to make up for lost time. Caroline and Jacqueline obviously feel out of place, so they are glad to be sitting in the fire-warmed kitchen and eating pasta.

They wander down the steps through the town and Teresa might fall because of her bad shoes. She demands that Joe apologize for treating her badly. Joe's Italian accent is getting really strong, though he left Italy at the age of one. She again demands an apology; he tells her she better learn a little respect. She is really mad, and she tries to kick him. This is not a joke: look at her eyes. Then she tries to turn it into a joke and she pretends to kick him again. Her doesn't apologize to her; he tells her that with one kick, he could send her flying over the hill and into the valley. He says it in a kind of funny way, so she takes it as her apology, and then she makes him apologize to one of the kids he yelled at for running all over the place like an on-the-loose chimpanzee. Then they both yell at the kids some more in the waning light of the sun, over near where Joe was born.

Back to Danielle. Danielle is playing with the dog, and when the phone rings, she says it's her private detective. Hers. He updates her and tells her that it will take a little while to find the information about her birth mom because her birth mom was a minor, which she already knew.

Danielle said that she had waited 47 years to find her birth mom (Danielle's speech impediment made me think she was saying four to seven years, which made me think of a prison sentence), and she believes she's out there, so another 10 years won't matter. And then she breaks into strange, hysterical-bordering tears.

The Italians are having a big party with a big table in a restaurant with white cloths and a minimal number of wine bottles in shelves against the wall. They have erected a curtain that Teresa and her family can emerge from behind, and when they do, it's horrendous. Teresa is in a slip that maybe fit her 10 years ago. Not a slip dress, mind you, a slip. One of the kind your grandmother wore, but with some rhinestones and fake pearls added. It was Bedazzled. And Bewildering. He breasts are popping over the top in a strangely unsettling manner and her hips and thighs make the dress do strange things at the sides.  Joe is wearing a sweater and a mailman's kind of jacket.

The Giudettes. Oh, the Giudettes. This is the kind of thing that makes kids stop talking to their mothers.

They are wearing the ugliest f-ing dresses (I don't like the f-word, but I am trying to explain how bad these dresses are, and I am using the terminology of the Queen Bee from Mean Girls) ever created, anywhere in the world, for anyone. Uglier than a prison dress from the 1930s, uglier than the 1980s, uglier than toddler pageant dresses. These dresses are just vomit-inducing.

Pink poly-satin ruffled shepherdess dresses with leopard overskirts. Ruffles, lacing, bows. Pantalettes. Giant ugly headpieces. Hoopskirts.

The Giudices have one pretty child, the middle one. This dress made her look ugly.

It was as if all the strippers in New Jersey got together and donated their outfits so that Teresa could compile this mess. Which she paid for and called beautiful custom-made dresses.

Caroline is giggling at them behind her napkin, There is over-the-top and then there is tacky. This was just tacky, laughably so. When you consider how much money they spent on gaudy things that aren't even enviable, it just makes me cringe. Those dresses are worth at least four years in prison.

Joe is speaking with such an Italian accent that he sounds as if he is trying to be a waiter at a restaurant in Iowa.

Salut, yadda, yadda.

Back home they all go, and Caroline's house is in one piece and Teresa wants the kids to go to bed. Milania, who can only scream, yells that she doesn't want to go home. Teresa and Joe are back home and it takes Joe three prompts to say he loves Teresa, too.

Ashley is guilty of pulling Danielle's hair, Jacqueline admits.

Next week, Caroline is going to meet one-on-one with Danielle.